Friday, March 09, 2012

3/9/2012 Ski Week!

Finally -- Ski Week! Sort of after the act, since it was 80 degrees in Sunnyvale today on March 9 as I publish, but what can we do. I had a lot of technical issues with this -- I really need to quit blogging and just write.

Sunday 2/19/12

Ski Week!

OK, it's not officially called that, but rumor is that our school district timed its "winter recess" with peak ski season, so that parents would quit pulling their kids out of school to ski. The ski resorts are onto this, and hike prices up for "peak" time -- and if you don't plan lodging and other reservations weeks ahead of time, you're doomed. And so, "Ski Week" was born.

Despite my aversion to crowds and peak times, I decided to attempt skiing during ski week this year. I'd heard from friends that President's Day weekend itself is pretty packed, but the weekdays following aren't bad. I reserved a small house in Truckee for 5 nights, and planned to drive up on a Sunday morning when traffic wouldn't be bad. It turned out Dave couldn't join us, but I'd already taken the kids on ski trips myself, so I was ready.

The kids are getting used to these drives, and were ready for some time in the snow -- though Katrina wasn't excited about the pre-trip photos.

I like to find my way to a new place while it's still daylight, and arrive in time for the kids to play outside for a while. They blow off steam after a 200-mile-or-so drive while I figure out the logistics. Though it means driving during the best part of the day, and not having much heart or energy to insist the kids help me unpack the car, this plan works great.

This particular house violated a consistent rule of Truckee houses: There Shalt Be Horrible Lighting In The Kitchen. Though this house is on the old side, it had everything we needed and then some, including a piano.

It also had a huge garage, appointed with 3 sleds. The kids wasted no time in playing with the sleds in the huge front yard, despite the poor snow and overall lack of slope. I was so happy to see them running around outside, joyful in the packed, icy remnants of snow, that I didn't bug them much to help me unpack.

Monday 2/20/12

The Plan was to hang out and "relax" the first day in Truckee, then spend 3 days at Sugarbowl skiing.

But no matter what the kids say, there's no getting around it: they can't stay home and "relax" all day. As much fun as they were having playing in the ample front yard of our home-to-be for 5 days, I knew they needed to get out. So I insisted we get out to go tubing at Boreal in the morning.

This proved to be a bit of a bust, actually. Lines were long, and the tubing runs themselves were pretty mundane.

At least this place had a "magic carpet" lift.

And long slow lines.

Spin!

They all got bored after about half an hour, and instead wanted to play in what little snow there was. I let them do that for a while, amusing myself by experimenting with my new camera, until I just couldn't take standing around anymore.

As much fun as "relaxing" sounds, I was very ready for an active busy ski day!

Tuesday 2/21/12

Our first ski day started with a very strange night.

I'd impressed heavily upon the kids that we were leaving at 7:15am, and not to putz in the morning. I set all their snow clothes out, bowls for cereal, and had everything ready to go. But something woke Julian up, he said around 11:55pm, and he thought it was time to get up. He got dressed, had breakfast, and sat on the couch and waited, falling asleep on and off, until morning, where I found him sitting on a chair awake and puzzled at 6:30am.

I asked him if he knew that "11:55 PM" means it's still nighttime, but he couldn't really answer that. "I didn't want to wake you up, Mom." Judging by how crusty his cereal was, he'd eaten it many hours ago. What on earth?! He'd been up all night!!

Later I realized that what woke him was the dryer buzzing. The dryer has no way to turn the buzzer off, and it's right next to the kids' bedrooms. When they play in the snow, their mittens and snow pants get soaked and need to be dried, sometimes washed first. The dryer is on constant duty, and unfortunately, this one's buzzer sounds like an alarm clock.

Still, we were up early, which meant the primo parking spot.

Gabriel had no ski school on our first day, but I'd signed him and myself up for a morning general-admission group lesson (separate due to our ages) and we met up for lunch. Julian and Katrina were in ski school all day.

I caught some of Julian's class on the bunny hill ("White Pines") just before my lesson.

I also glimpsed Katrina's class from the lift. She was just meandering her way down through hoops on the bunny hill. Her body position was very unlike her brothers', who are crouched forward in a daring bolt (Gabriel) or in hesitant fear (Julian). She just lah-de-dah'd her way down, unconcerned and confident. Her teacher told me later that she's very ready for more challenging runs, and he'll take her on them tomorrow. Finally.

I like starting the day with a group lesson: it gives me someone to ski with, I don't worry about navigation, and I get essential instruction. But though I'm still a relatively new skiier, not many people at my level show up for lessons anymore.

Fortunately, a very experienced German woman showed up, and they weren't going to mess with her. This resulted in a last-minute scramble for another instructor for a more advanced lesson, so instead of making the most of a level 3 lesson, I got pushed hard in a level 4 lesson. I learned all sorts of new things, including an intro to moguls, and some new techniques for controlling speed on steep terrain -- something the German woman needed help with, because she was freakin' FAST and had no interest in controlling her speed!

After the morning's group lessons, I met up with Gabriel for lunch. This is now one of my all-time favorite life's moments: we have so much fun together at lunch: clunking around in our ski boots, sharing hot chocolate, joking about how good junk food tastes, comparing the morning's skiing experiences, and planning our afternoon routes.

Our afternoon had challenges though. The snow is sparse, and what's there today was sticky and slow. Sugarbowl has a lot of flat spots approaching lifts and on connecting paths between runs, which means a lot of pushing, huffing, skating, and ski-walking at the end of runs to get to the lifts. I'd done a lot of that in my morning lesson and was already really tired by the time I skiied with Gabriel, and found him to be even less energetic about this than I was. The skiing itself was still fun, but we were constantly dodging icy spots, slushy spots, and increasingly, bare spots as the thin snow cover melted away during the day.

I had quite the panic-moment on top of Mt. Lincoln though. After getting off the lift, I took my gloves off to check Gabriel's boot that he was complaining about. Next thing I knew, the wind started to blow my gloves away! I unlatched my skis quickly and sprinted after them, diving to catch one just before it rolled over a precipice. Whew!

Gabriel at Rahvle's Run, at the top of Mt. Lincoln.

My route from the top turned out to involve at least 3 sections of the dreaded huffing and walking and side-stepping uphill. Gabriel was absolutely exhausted by the time we finished up with "Donner's Way," Sugarbowl's intro black-diamond, though we sure as heck weren't going on any greens, 'cause they involve even more pushing. He conquered Donner's Way with his usual bravado and lack of style, but he was really wiped out.

I let Gabriel rest in the loading zone while I hustled with our gear to pick up Julian and Katrina. When I drove around to pick him up, he was asleep.

Julian's teacher said Julian wasn't exactly peppy about the huffing around, and she'd had to pull him a lot. She actually demoted him down to Level 2!

Katrina had spent the day on the bunny hill, which I'd really tried to avoid, but her teacher said she was completely ready for more and would do more tomorrow. She'd been promoted to Level 2. I cringed at the possibility they might end up in the same class -- oh please, no.

I never tire of this view on Donner Pass Road, the best way back to our rental house in Truckee.

Gabriel plopped himself straight down on the couch when we got home, and Julian went straight outside and didn't come back in until after dark. This is why I always get a place with a washer/dryer -- they get soaked playing in snow!

What a strange day -- first Julian being up all night, the glove incident, then Gabriel being so worn out by the huffing. But a ski trip wouldn't be a ski trip without these stories!

Wednesday 2/22/12

Our second ski day started again with Julian at 4am: "Mommy, I threw up!" Repeat at 5am and 6:30am. It it was clear he wasn't going to ski school today. Fortunately, I'd gotten a call that there was an all-day spot in ski school for Gabriel today.

I got Gabriel and Katrina together with far more trouble than there should have been, whisked them to ski school, sprinted to pick up mine and Gabriel's skis from the wax shop, which of course is as far as possible from the ski school, then drove back to check on Julian. He was back in bed asleep and woke up when I got home, then sprinted to the toilet again, hurling what little was left in his stomach.

I spent the morning with him, showing him Kung Fu videos and how to send me text messages from my computer. I turned on the TV, and he lay down to glue himself to TV Land. After a while, I decided his stomach was stable. He needed rest, he had a way to contact me, I was going to have leave him anyway to get the other two, he's 8...ok, it's rationalizing, but my sense really was that he'd be OK. And so with instructions to text me every half hour, I left him and went back to Sugarbowl.

It was too late for a lesson for me, but I did want to get in some skiing and figured this would be a good opportunity to practice yesterday's lesson and expand my black-diamond repertoire without worrying about Gabriel. With trepidation, I tried "Market Place," a slope I'd done last year with an instructor. I regretted it immediately. The top ridge was narrow, crusty and icy and filled with rock and bare-spot obstacles. It was better toward the bottom, but I sure didn't want to do the top approach again.

So I thought I'd try "Sugar Bowl" (what a name at a resort named Sugarbowl), but was intimidated by a sign that said "Ungroomed terrain, not controlled for avalanches." Doesn't sound good. Partially committed, I took "East Face," telling myself this "Expert Only" sign was written by lawyers.

Once again, completely out of my league. Icy, steep, icy, chopped-up, icy -- not good for someone who still can't turn quickly. I made it down, but it took all my effort, coaching myself aloud, and digging into depths of courage I just don't have. By the bottom, I was wrung out, moreso mentally than physically.

I figured I'd try a shorter black-diamond I'd done in my lesson yesterday, from the top of Mt. Lincoln. And I love the view there.

But "Vanderbilt" was the worst yet -- today it was complete ice and I had a terrible time trying to get around the lumps, contours and mini-moguls. I made it down without getting hurt, but it was really ugly. No more black-diamond adventures for me today. I can't get hurt, I have children to care for. I stuck to groomers after that.

It was absurdly warm today, with more and more bare spots appearing on the slopes as the day progressed, with ice in the shady spots. This does not make for good skiing! I've had it with ice and heavy snow -- I'm not sure I've ever skiied on the light, fluffy stuff I hear exists. Are we done yet? I was actually glad when it was time to pick up Gabriel and Katrina!

I was so happy to hear that Katrina's instructor had had a great day with her -- alone! An all-day private lesson! And she spent the whole day on easy blues, finally. Her instructor, genuinely I think, said that she was really fun to spend the day with, she was totally willing and able and was really advancing. He seemed truly proud of her, and so was I!

Gabriel had a mixed day that averaged out to GREAT.

He'd been put in a level 3 lesson in the morning, despite my telling the harried ski school director emphatically that he'd done a level 4 lesson the day before, and had breezed down an easy black (they don't do blacks in level 3). But he still got put into a lesson with kids who were falling all the time on beginner blues. This is what we go to Sugarbowl to avoid!

Fortunately, at lunch, he got traded to a much more advanced class, because another class had a girl who just couldn't keep up. His new instructor said Gabriel had to "ski up," and this proved to be a great thing. They did all sorts of stuff -- including the off-piste "Sugar Bowl" run that I hadn't dared. Gabriel said "Sugar Bowl" was really hard and he fell a few times, but his instructor said he did great, especially given the horrible snow conditions. They also did "ridges," (going over the edge of one run to the verticals down to the bottom), a rainbow jump among others in a terrain park, trees, and another black diamond I'd aimed for but couldn't find. And I think it did him good to get outski'd by two girls, including an 8-year-old.

I asked Gabriel if he wanted to try to get in the same class tomorrow, but he said, "No Mommy, I want to ski with you. I tried to talk him out of it, explaining that there's no way I can do take him where his instructor did today, but he said, "I don't care, I want to be with you." I'll take it! I only get another 1, 2 years tops of that!

My own ski day had been pretty rattling -- no lesson, a failed black-diamond blitz, missing Gabriel as a lunch companion, worrying about Julian. But I was so happy that Katrina and Gabriel had had such great ski school days.

When we got back to the house, Julian was exactly where I'd left him -- lying on the couch watching TV Land. Before long, he was demanding food and actively pestering his siblings -- back to his old self and ready to ski the next day.

Truckee hit a high of 56 degrees today -- has winter forgotten us this year?

Thursday 2/23/12

Once again, at 12:30am: "Mom! I threw up!" Julian had seemed so much better last night, and I was really looking forward to all being together the next day. But he said he was worried he'd get sick while at ski school, so I decided to let him stay at our adopted home.

Today I had no ski school for Gabriel, and since Julian was feeling mostly better, I truly didn't see any point in staying with him all day. I decided to go about the day same as I would have -- other than abandoning a sick 8-year-old that is. With orders to text me frequently and watch TV all day, I left Julian behind and took the other two to Sugarbowl.

After dropping Katrina off at ski school, Gabriel and I warmed up on the runs under the Mt. Judah lift. I was really discouraged. I'd had a tough day yesterday, and yesterday's super-warm snow had frozen overnight. The groomed runs were striated ice, and the nongroomed runs were pure ice. Will I ever get to ski on snow?! My thighs were burning by 10am when we went to our group lessons.

Gabriel got the same teacher he'd had in Tuesday's group lesson, so no momma-bearing about his level to a skeptical instructor who hears parents overstate their kids' ability every day. (The instructors told me that it's the parents who can actually ski who are the worst offenders; newbies like me don't know better!) But this instructor not only knew Gabriel's level, but that while he's short on style and technique, he's very high on courage and willingness. Having a teacher who already knows that about you means you can get right to work.

For my lesson, the same awesome German woman arrived -- and she too knew my ability and approach. She was clearly disappointed to see me -- she was ready for more! They weren't messing with her again, so they sent two instructors up with us to see if we were matched, and determined within seconds that we were nowhere close. Her rapidly diminishing form in the distance was the big clue there -- she was gone before I'd even wrapped my hands around my poles off the lift. So we each got a private lesson!

My instructor went back to basics. Most of what he said, I'd heard before, but not exactly as he said it, and I need constant reminders. I got to follow him a lot too, which was really helpful. We did mostly easy runs, but by the end, I'd learned how to make it down a run in a much narrower track than I had been, I had a few "ah-HAH" moments, some new visualizations (like pedaling a bicycle, that was cool) -- I had my mojo back! I gave my near-elderly instructor a genuine hug of joy afterward.

Gabriel too had had a great lesson, laregely because of having a teacher who already knew him, making me glad he wasn't in all-day ski school. This plan of us each taking a lesson in the morning, then having lunch and skiing the afternoon together is great. This will forever be one my favorite memories of my time with my firstborn son.

After lunch, we had fun taking photos and videos of each other in the terrain parks. I had a great time on the huge snowhills in the "large feature" terrain park, and a lot less fear than last year about the "small" terrain park's little bitty features, like flat boxes.

Gabriel on the rainbow box.

Gabriel bombs down "Juniper," a short steep stretch, nice tumble at the end.

Me doing 3 flat boxes in a row in the baby terrain park -- not so bad once you've done them!



Next time, the rainbow box!

We quit around 3pm in the hopes of catching Katrina's class coming back so we could ski with her, but her class came back too late.

While waiting, I chatted with her instructor Dylan she'd had the past 2 days, who I expected she'd have today. Turns out, she did have Dylan this morning, but there was a problem: her two new classmates were new beginners, so she was stuck on the bunny hill again. Worse, they were bickering brothers -- like she doesn't get enough of that! One boy was raring to go, while the other was crying in fear of the mild slope. Her instructor seemed frazzled, he'd had a tough day with the two brothers. Fortunately, he was able to regretfully trade Katrina to a higher class at lunch, because he knew she didn't belong on the bunny hill.

Done chatting, finally Katrina and her class came back, and I zoomed her into the bunny hill lift line before having a chance to talk to her new afternoon instructor. Katrina was outraged and almost threw a massive tantrum: she did not want to do the bunny hill: "I want to go to Jerome!" So I semi-lied and told her that we had to take this lift first to get to the other runs, which is true, but the complete truth was that we were out of time. And I wasn't sure I could help her on the icy blues -- I really just needed to see how she skiied first.

I set up to take video of her just off the lift, but she just took off and I missed it. I was floored! She was gone! Second time up I was better-prepared, but still had trouble catching her while video-ing.

No wonder she was so offended by having to be on the bunny hill again. She's doing great, far better than I expected! She wanted to ski until dark, and was insistent about returning tomorrow. I didn't know how to tell her that we were driving home tomorrow.

After returning Katrina's rentals, I had a chance talk to her afternoon instructor. Her upgraded class included one of those incredible 5-year-olds whose father is an instructor, and in fact was Julian's instructor last year. This meant that Katrina could try anything she was ready for, and she was all over it! He said she did great on the easy blues. I asked him what level she's at for future placement, and he said a high level 2. She still needs work on turns and stops, and isn't quite parallel yet, but emphasized especially that she is done with the bunny hill.

I was grateful to Katrina's instructors for moving her up, but a little irritated that it had to happen at all. On her 3rd day in a row, with the same instructor she'd had the prior 2 days, and having spent the day before on blues, she should not have been back on the bunny hill with a cryer! Similarly, Gabriel shouldn't have spent yesterday morning on the easy blues with a faller. We go out of our way to Sugarbowl to avoid exactly that. Not only is a below-level class a huge lost opportunity, but it can turn a kid against ski school and frustrate them watching other people whizz by as they're standing around.

Still, I credit the ski school for giving the instructors the latitude to notice the problem and trade when they can. I understand that it's very very hard to schedule level-appropriate classes during the busiest week of the season, especially with a limit of 3 per class, and in one of the worst snow years ever when they've had to cut way back on staff. But I'll think twice about this during Ski Week again.

With high spirits at our final successful day, I poured Gabriel and Katrina into the car and drove the lovely drive back to our temporary home one last time.

Julian was exactly where I'd left him: on the couch in his pajamas watching the Cartoon Network. Great. Well, some days, it just has to happen. He'd sent me texts from my computer a few times during the day that said "yaaahhh! having a GREAT time!", so I knew he was OK. I sure wish he'd gotten more than one so-so day of skiing in, but them's the breaks. He's got a lot of catching-up to do.

And so went our 3rd annual 3-days-at-Sugarbowl ski trip.

I have mixed feelings about Sugarbowl. Despite our narrow misses, I'm still convinced the ski school is unmatched. Gabriel and Katrina advanced so much, Katrina especially benefitting from the small class, the usual care to match levels, and teacher continuity. I also really like the "Mt. Judah" area, all blues, with the terrain parks (which as terrain parks go are probably considered lame, which must be why I like them). It's also a little more accessible than most other resorts, and as I was to soon learn, it doesn't have a bad lift. It has sentimental value too, because the majority of our learning curve has occurred here.

But I don't like how far apart the lifts are, what a pain it is to ski up to a lift on a slushy day, and the lack of good green runs. I heard it described as a place designed for "big snow," and also as an "intermediate" resort -- so, it doesn't work as well for beginner families in a low-snow winter. Maybe this is just bad luck, but it seems I've had more than my share of ice and heavy slushy snow and windy ridges there. And while ski resort food is never anything to be excited about, Sugarbowl's is on the low end.

Despite all the challenges, all the ups and downs, all the averted, near, and actual disasters, it was still a terrific time and will be another terrific memory. We're all very much looking forward to the next ski trip -- just where, I'm not sure yet...!

Friday 2/24/12

But wait -- there's more.

I'd planned to sleep late on our last morning, but that plan was foiled by screeEECH! at 6:45am. Then Julian burst in: "Katrina has a bloody nose!"

Katrina does nosebleeds right -- total gushers. I found her with multiple streams of bloud pouring down her arm and dripping off her elbow as she tried to stop it with a few tissues Julian had given her. Her hands were trembling, as she's done since she was a baby when woken up suddenly. I grabbed two full-sized bath towels, and about 25 minutes, it was under control.

During this crisis, I was starting to form a plan. We're up early....maybe we can pull off another ski day together....? Julian had missed out on two days, and I really wanted to see Katrina ski.

So I thought we'd try Homewood, a small, lower-key place known for its beauty, and a lovely green run that goes from top to bottom. Katrina almost threw a fit about not going to Sugarbowl, but once again I lied and told her we couldn't go to Sugarbowl today. Truth is, I really wanted to try Homewood, and I knew Sugarbowl would mean a lot of pushing her into lifts. (I had no idea what I was in for.)

I zoomed through the packing-up, regretting that I hadn't done some of it the night before, and squelched my irritation that it was so much faster to do it myself than to push my delinquent entitled children to pitch in. Somehow we were out by 9:30 and on our way south from the beautiful 40-minute drive to Homewood.

We started on one of their several bunny hills, with a small terrain park, to get Julian's ski legs back. But the lift was a "surface lift" -- a modern rope tow with poles and a mini-seat that you put between your legs and it pulls you up.


(That's Katrina in the pink helmet about to dismount -- and fall -- from this pole lift.)

Katrina had trouble with this surface lift, but none at all with its short hill. Julian got in a run or two, including a bit in the mini-terrain park, after which he announced, "I'm ready now!" Time to move on to the mountain.

I'm OK with ancient chair lifts, but Homewood's are particularly bad -- shallow seats, no bar, really fast to get on and really slow once you're on it, and a tendency to lurch so you feel like you're about to get thrown off. Both Julian and Katrina were very freaked out by this (they're 3-wide, so Gabriel was on his own), so I used my poles as a "bar." Plus it was tricky to get off.

As we approached the top of the lift, another problem revealed itself: How would I keep track of all three kids here? I formed a plan that I used the rest of the day: tell Gabriel what lift to meet us at, how he got there was up to him. I'd ski with Katrina and hope Julian would stay with us, since he falls a lot.

When we got off this lift, Katrina wasted no time taking off, and Julian too skied away. But soon I had tons of trouble. Homewood seemed particularly hit hard by the low snow and warm temperatures, with many bare or wet spots -- and lots and lots of slow and flat spots. The main green run also had a low bridge that you can only get over by building speed and zooming over, but the heavy slushy snow meant walking up. And for me, that meant a very long wait for Katrina, or pulling her with a pole.

You can see the bare spots and bad snow here. I was too busy pulling and pushing kids to take pictures where it was really bad.

Ick. Plan B. I herded everyone to the Ellis lift to get to the top -- another ancient, slow, long, uncomfortable 3-person lift with no bars. Then at the top awaited us -- another walk! More side-stepping, huffing, pole-pulling and heaving to get up to the top of the green run. Ugh!

At least Rainbow Ridge was beautiful, with view straight into Lake Tahoe. It looks like you're going to ski right into the water! Katrina and Julian enjoyed the top part (Gabriel was gone), where there was snow and enough slope to keep moving. had no trouble with it -- Gabriel was gone -- and we enjoyed the top part where there was enough snow and slope to keep moving.

At least Rainbow Ridge was beautiful, with view straight into Lake Tahoe. It looks like you're going to ski right down into the lake! Katrina and Julian had no trouble with it -- Gabriel was gone -- and we enjoyed the top part.


Some slightly-edited camera video of Katrina at Homewood on our last day. She and her tiny little skis can turn on a dime!

I had to SCREAM once to catch Julian just before he committed himself to an off-piste black-diamond -- he was fooled by an ambiguously-placed sign. Other signs are blocked by overgrown trees.

But this connected into the same sloppy, slow green that I'd already done so much pulling and pushing and walking on. A hardworking employee was shoveling snow to cover bare spots, trying hard to keep ahead of the melting, but the sun was relentless. I made up a "zoom boost" game in which I'd shove Katrina on the back to help her get past the flat spots, but this was exhausting. (And so bad for my tricky back -- this was not the time for it to freak out!)

In a quest to find a skiable area with no walking and a decent lift, I got everyone to Quail Chair. This one has a bar, but it came in so fast it smashed me in the back of my knees, and I had to work fast to pull Katrina onto it. I held her tightly on the lift and skiied her off it. I do not like the lifts here!

The view from the top of Quail Chair was fabulous, and I got the kids to reluctantly cooperate for a picture.

Then I realized that once again, getting to the green run I'd planned meant a lot of walking and pushing. SO done with that! The alternative was to attempt the nice handy blue that's right here. I sent Gabriel on his way with instructions to meet us at the bottom lift, and Katrina and Julian and I tackled the blue "Martin's Lane."

Katrina did fine at the top. She said she was scared a few times, but was always in control. Then I noticed Julian skiing off the run again, on the sides, and had to go catch him and give him instructions: Don't go there! I don't want to carry you out of a ditch! Then looking back at Katrina, I saw her heading toward the edge and fall.

Then it all went downhill, pardon the pun.

We'd reached a part of the run that was shaded and so really, really crusty and icy, and steeper than the top. Katrina was scared from her mild fall and it was very hard to get her up, since she'd just start to slide. Once she was up, she could easily traverse the slope, turn, and traverse again, but she got herself completely freaked out and would sit back and fall just after making a perfect turn. I dug deep to help her -- I gave her targets, talked to her calmly some times and gave her terse instructions other times, ski right next to her, ask what her Sugarbowl teacher Dylan would say. Some of this talking helped, but as soon as she'd start to ski, she scream "I'm scared! I'm scared!", cry, then make a fabulous tight little turn, scream again and fall again. It was killing me, because she really could do this.

Then she fell and started to slide straight down belly-first, skis facing downhill, screaming bloody murder. Gabriel arrived at the bottom of the run just about then: "What's going on?" I had no time to explain!

But that slide got her past the worst part, and now the end was within reach. Exhausted myself, I did a tough-love thing of getting her up, arranging her skis, and pretty much giving her a shove, and she skiied to the end quite competently, screeching the whole way.

That was awful!

Though safe on nearly level ground, Katrina was still crying and freaked out, so I asked Gabriel to lead her down. But he went ridiculously slowly despite my repeated admonitions to get moving. Overprotective brother! He was just getting in her way -- after that trauma, she really needed to just ski. I gladly sent him on his way at a turnoff to the easy black-diamond "Spillway," barely catching Katrina before she went that way too. Turns out Julian had already made that navigation mistake, and unwittingly did his first black.

I was worried that Katrina's last run with all the screaming and panicking would be a terrible note to end on, but she recovered quickly. I was done though. This was way way too much work for me today. Still worthwhile, but this isn't the place for me to handle 3 kids myself under these snow conditions. Homewood got an unfair shake today because of the awful snow conditions, but I longed for Sierra-at-Tahoe's friendly lifts and layouts.

The shuttle bus back to the other parking lot. More heaving - the bus doesn't have a ski rack, so everything has to be carried up onto it. UGH -- more heave-ho!

Rental returns, reunion with real shoes, put away skis....whew!! We went up to Homewood's restaurant and had a nice long leisurely lunch. The kids sat peacefully together and munched on corn dogs and watched snowboarders tumbling in the terrain park as we chatted happily about our day. I was in no hurry! I needed a rest! And I treasured this happy moment with my children.

We got on the road at 3:40pm, and already my memories were turning to only fond ones. The long drive ahead included spectacular Emerald Bay around Lake Tahoe, so I didn't mind. One stop in Placerville, a little commute traffic in Sacramento, and we were home by 8:15pm, exhausted.

Despite our disastrous last run down "Martin's Lane", I am thrilled with Katrina's new skiing skill. I delighted in the time when she blew by two young women, the quintessential tiny pole-less mite bopping nonchalantly past the grownups. She's clearly been taught to turn and stop, and she incorporates it into her skiing -- and she actually likes it.

Wrap-up Thoughts

Ski Week is a great and horrible idea.

On the one hand, the kids have a week off of school during what's usually the best snow time of the year. On the other hand, it's crowded, discounts don't apply, and even Sugarbowl has problems scheduling ski school.

The concept of dedicating one week a year (well, probably 4 days, plus travel time) is a great one though. Maybe next year we'll try Mount Bachelor in Oregon, where their school districts don't have a "ski week" and its snow quality is consistently better. I have the whole rest of the year to dream of the Sierras!

2/24/2012

Tuesday, March 06, 2012

3/6/2012 The Morning Person

URRGH! This whole week, I'm taking an online class that starts at 8:30am -- EASTERN TIME! Do the math, and you'll see that I have to be up, awake and thinking by 5:30am every day. Ouch!

In some ways, it's good. It's a horrendously painful morning, but this class isn't all that hard, and I blow through the labs. I like being done by 2pm or so (my time). In theory, I can go exercise then, but in practice, I'm just too tired. It doesn't matter what time I get to bed (it's 9:20pm now as I type), I just feel awful all day when I have to be up by 5:30am, despite all its convenience benefits.

Speaking of convenience, Gabriel was home sick all day, after leaving school for throwing up before lunch, and then again in the evening, which I was there for. Though he's noisy humming all day, it was nice having him here during the day. I insisted he finish the homework he was able to bring home, then after my class, we snuck in our 2nd-favorite mother-son bonding activity: watching an episode of Burn Notice together.

Today would also have been my Dad's 79th birthday. I've been thinking about him a lot, moreso because the anniversary of his passing is next month, but I'll always think of March 6 of his birthday. NPR's "Talk Of The Nation" show today included an interview with an 88-year-old lady doctor who just wrote a book about how aging parents have to depend on their children, and often don't like that. A 96-year-old woman whose birthday is also today called into the show. 96. The robbery of Alzheimer's brought me to tears -- my Dad should have lived so long too.

Dad was a Morning Person too. Of the countless traits of his I didn't inherit, that's in the Top 5.

3/6/2012

Monday, March 05, 2012

3/5/2012 BM's birthday!

It's Bonne Maman's birthday! yay!! She got calls from all her 5 grandchildren -- that's what grandmas love the most!

And Moms love wonderful videos -- this is Uncle Ryan's first attempt with his new camera, and it's adorable. I LOVE it. It captures the kids having fun, but their own personalities really show (maybe even shine occasionally) through this. What a treat!! Thank you Uncle Ryan!!

3/5/2012

Sunday, March 04, 2012

3/4/2012 Back from Bear Valley

I haven't even finished writing up our Ski Week trip to Sugarbowl, and now I have another ski day to report on! Because of course it's essential I document Every Moment of these experiences. Soon it will get mundane enough I won't bother, but for now, it's still an exciting new thing.

We left for Bear Valley Saturday after lunch, and zipped up to Bear Valley Lodge in time for the kids to get in some snowplay outside.

Bear Valley, Sunday!

I put Julian and Katrina into all-day ski school so Gabriel and I could take a private lesson together and ski the rest of the day together.

I keep hoping all the things I tell the ski schools not to do will stop happening, but they keep happening.

Katrina spent the whole day on the bunny hill -- and the bunniest of the bunny hills, after I'd taken her on a warmup to the 2nd-level bunny hill with Gabriel.

I told the instructors she was done with bunny hills, but once again, she was stuck in a class with other kids who weren't ready for more, though most appeared older.

This is really becoming a problem -- am I really the only one with an intermediate 5-year-old who's ready for blues, and who puts them in lessons?? You see lots of kids her age bombing down black diamonds, but they probably have parents who can actually ski.

Julian spent the morning on blues with a fairly large class, and he seemed to be doing great. He was always leading the class though, this is a first for him.

But in the afternoon, he was the only kid at his level for a lesson, and ended up in Katrina's class -- on the bunniest bunny hill! They had a good day together, but the lost opportunity kills me -- especially being so warmed up from Ski Week two weeks ago, they both could have made exciting advances today.

I'm really glad I decided to go back to Sugarbowl for our March trip, I'm really really tired of Katrina -- and now Julian -- being stuck on the gentlest of green runs all day.

Gabriel and I took our first private lesson together, and this worked pretty well. The instructor spent more time giving me technique tips, since I'm generally more open to them, but we both practiced the exercises and got a lot out of them. We did two groomed black-diamonds with the instructor, harder ones than the intro blacks at Sugarbowl, and then spent much of our day on those runs.

A video of me on the groomed black-diamond "Monte Wolfe" -- not an easy one to stop on to take video, but Gabriel managed. I'm glad I can make it down this sort of run now, but I sure have a long way to go to being a seasoned stylish skiier!

I thought I'd taken video of Gabriel doing this run too, but I had some recording snafu. It was so fun doing this, and similar, runs with Gabriel today. I love sharing the challenge with him, and together, we're both able to handle more and more. I love spending the day together, and though I'm really loving skiing as an activity now, it's 100 times better doing it with him.

I really love Bear Valley, but its old lifts make me really appreciate Sugarbowl. Bear Valley's lifts are fast and tricky to get on (modern lifts slow down for mounting), some are too high for a little kid to reach easily, and some have very steep or short exit ramps. Even Gabriel slid forward once just before the chair arrived, and almost was smashed in the back, except for the quick thinking and action of a young snowboarder who grabbed Gabriel just in time. I couldn't find a good blue run with a lift I felt OK taking Katrina on, and decided not to ski with her after her and Julian's lesson.

But another great ski day -- they all are one way or another -- enough to make up for the mad scramble home, unpacking, getting stuff ready for school and cleaners tomorrow. I sure am looking forward to our March trip to Sugarbowl in 2 weekends!

3/4/2012

Thursday, March 01, 2012

3/1/12 Sharks game

No photos -- what a day. Spent at the HP Pavilion (where the Sharks play), in the basement (where their locker rooms are and they go through to get to the ice), but for a work conference, a "tech forum." The express intent was to watch presentations and schmooze and get to know customers -- something I'm no good at, but I managed a few chats. Then we moved up to a suite to watch the game from the comfort of an unobstructed view, with plenty of room to move around, food, wine, company -- luxurious! I didn't stay for the whole thing though, it'd been a long day. I didn't even see the kids today besides a few minutes in the morning.

STILL working on my ski blog post, it should be shorter but I just never seem to have time to work on it. And I'm planning on taking them to Bear Valley on Saturday -- it SNOWED finally!

3/1/12

Sunday, February 26, 2012

2/26/2012 Back to reality

I've been blogging a lot -- but not publishing! I'm trying to write up our ski trip as "briefly" as possible, but you know how that goes for me.

My new camera takes video in .mov format, so I can edit the videos now with Adobe Premiere Elements 10. Being able to edit videos means a LOT of time -- I almost think I liked it better the old way! But I like being able to cut the video down, rather than telling people "the interesting part starts 32 seconds into it."

We got back mid-evening Friday night, recovered Saturday with a short but lovely visit from Laura and Ryan on their way back to L.A. after a work trip to S.F, then today mostly took care of things around the house. I went for my first run at Rancho San Antonio since injuring my back, and that was really nice to be reunited with one of my favorite places in the world. (I sure wish I hadn't messed up my alarm and missed Betsy though, we'd planned to meet at 7am but I woke up at 7:09!)

Lunches made, backpacks ready, work stuff gathered....life starts all over again tomorrow. I wish we could go back to the mountains!

2/26/2012

Monday, February 20, 2012

2/20/2012 Tubing Day!

Turns out I do have Internet access at our rental in Truckee, and I'm making ample use of it!

I'd messed up our ski school reservations, so the ones I was able to get last-minute were spread out across 4 days, with our only reservation today being for Gabriel. I decided to cancel it and "take it easy" today, which I'm glad about.

We went tubing at Boreal, which was a little bit of a bust after our last tubing experience at Sierra-at-Tahoe. Boreal's tube runs are much shorter, straigher, and not as steep, not as organized as Sierra-at-Tahoe's (for example, no one hustling people away at the bottom, causing long waits at the top). It doesn't absorb crowds well, which on President's Day are inevitable. The kids were bored after a short time and gladly went on to playing in the snow, which eventually bored me.

After the usual massive headache rounding them up, I did get a photo-op, which is what it's all about for me!

We spent the afternoon at our rental house, where the kids played outside for the better part of the afternoon. That's enough of that -- we're skiing tomorrow!

2/20/12

Friday, February 17, 2012

2/17/12 New!

New camera!
Katrina is modeling her minor haircut; she was along for the ride and got a little bangs touch-up while the boys got de-shagged.

Still took the photo too close though, look how distorted her left hand is. But this camera is supposed to handle low-light conditions better -- and should still take my careless throw-it-in-the-bag abuse. Just in time for our upcoming ski trip! I've been waiting to get a new Canon S100 since September last year, I'm really happy about it.

That reminds me, our ski rental place has no Internet access, so we'll be off the air for a while. That could be a good thing!

In case anyone was wondering, today was supposed to be our 20/20 interview air date -- but we always knew it could get pre-empted by big breaking news, and Whitney Houston's death certainly counts in 20/20-land as major news. No idea if/when we'll ever air after all.

2/1/7/2012

Thursday, February 16, 2012

2/16/2012 Race Oats

I already posted a behind-the-scenes outtake of the Race Oats commercial, but here's the final version.

We had to replace one of the main actors at the last minute, because he became erratic and unreliable and didn't show up to the set on time. Every minute he was late was wasted time for the crew, while daylight was waning. But we recruited a replacement actress at the last minute, and she learned her lines quickly and was very cooperative and professional. She lends quite a different interpretation to the role, and even performed some of her own stunts!

Gabriel had composed, performed and recorded the music already. After shooting was complete, he loaded everything into iMovie HD and put it together himself -- with no help from me at all until trying to burn it to disc. (Actually we weren't sure the format we could save it in would work on his teacher's old computer, so I put it on YouTube as a backup.)

This was by far the best book report I've ever been involved in. And what great timing on Gabriel's teacher's part: tomorrow, the last day before a week's recess and the day this report is due, the whole class will have a blast watching all their "commercials" -- videos, skits and music performances. It's enough to restore faith in the public schools, though to me the lesson is in the teacher: given the latitude, they can do amazing things. Like make even me rave about a book report!

2/16/2012

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

2/15/2012 The Checklist

Katrina has had a habit for a few months now of writing things and taping them to the wall. Her room is plastered with her notes and drawings, and many more letters go un-taped.

She's very excited about going to Truckee on Sunday. Tonight after doing the "commercial" filming with the boys, I noticed another Katrina-note taped to the mantle.

(On the hearth are Gabriel's cereal-box report (orange), and his Big Bunny first-place trophy, that he used as a prop in the commercial.)

Katrina's note:

bring those

* Ditty
* SNOW!
* yourself
* your brain
* snowstuff
clothes
* your backpack

Katrina

Yes, let's make sure not to forget anything!

2/15/12

2/15/2012 The Commercial

Gabriel's been working on his "King of the Wind" book report, which is in a very fun format: a cereal box. He has to invent a breakfast cereal themed on the book, including a cereal name and slogan. The ingredients are the characters, and the nutrition facts are the book's setting and story. There's also a word search based on things in the book. Having been a huge fan of The Black Stallion as a kid, I had no shortage of horse-race-related suggestions for his word search, like "gallop" and "backstretch."

The part he really wanted to do was to film a commercial for his new cereal. He wrote a short script and has two simple scenes for his commercial, which stars himself with Julian as supporting actor. I acted as cameraman and assistant director.

Tonight we filmed the second scene in the commercial, in which Gabriel comes home after winning a race because he'd eaten his oats. This is a dress rehearsal.

This was so much fun that Gabriel couldn't remember that tonight was a school night!

Now for the editing phase!

2/15/2012

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

2/14/12 The modern Valentine

In today's feel-good world, class Valentines are only done to everyone in the whole class, and teachers take care to send a list of everyone's names.

So I printed out some Valentine's for Katrina to do, and even capitulated on getting some small candy to tape to each Valentine. But she had no interest in doing it, and even wrote me a letter telling me she'd thrown them all away. O.K., GOT the point.

Then, the day before Valentine's Day, I noticed that she'd done one of her own at CDC, to a classmate.

And, because of the "Valentine's for everyone" rule, I had to tell her she couldn't give it to her friend. Kinda twisted!

2/14/2012

Monday, February 13, 2012

2/13/2012 All About Me

Girls really are different from boys.

Katrina came home today with a poster template for her "All About Me" week. Each kid in the class does this, one kid per week, sort of like "Star of the Week" in the older grades.

This is the sort of project I dread, something that absolutely requires parent participation to walk them through it, pick and print pictures, battle them each step of the way to identify their favorites, and worse, get then to draw their favorite something. This turns into a multi-day and sometimes multi-week battle.

But Katrina was excited about her poster tempate, and set right to work on it the moment she got home. Next thing I knew, with absolutely NO discussion or intervention from me, it was DONE! Like, before dinner in one night?!

I think the expectation is that we'd print photos in the boxes, but she took it upon herself to draw and color her own. I can't believe it!! She finished a major project for a kindergartener in less time than it takes her brothers to grump their way through a single days' language assignment.

I am 5 years old -- My favorite color is hot pink

My favorite animal is horse -- My favorite food is ice cream

This is what I look like.

My family (I like the headless faceless adults, a la Charlie Brown)

Beach is my favorite place

When I grow up, I want to be police (take that, princesses!)

My favorite thing to do is swimming (not skiing?!

If I had one wish, I would wish for: horse (uh-oh, cringes my pocketbook)

Katrina did ask for help once, by asking me how old she'd be on Monday. But other than that, she was completely focused and plowed right through it, interrupting herself only to screech at one brother or another to leave her alone. She was outraged that her creation had no place in the dinner-area and that we insisted it stay safely away from food in the homework room.

But this is a great problem to have!

2/13/2012

Saturday, February 11, 2012

2/11/12 Back Week

Hmm, I haven't blogged much this week. It's been an interesting week, with being partially disabled with this back problem and attending doctor's and physical therapy appointments and needing to lie down a lot.

Somehow I accidentally got involved on some high-profile projects at work, and when they hit, they hit fast. It's been a real challenge -- not so much technically, but rather struggling with how to handle myself with real customers, both on the phone and in person. I'm keenly aware that the livelihood of the salesperson I'm backing up depends a lot on how I conduct myself. My main strength, which is intense technical discussion, can be a liability -- not all customers want to be bludgeoned by the icky ins-and-outs. I'm getting coaching, but there's no doubt this isn't natural to me.

And there are tricky discussions, such as if I'm working with one vendor to spec something out, and that vendor asks if we're looking at other vendors (Cisco, anyone?). My way is to blurt out the truth -- I need to learn how to, and more importantly when to, delicately sidestep the question.

I've never felt like such a geek in my life -- something I aspired to and would normally be proud of, but now I'm not so sure! Everyone seems to love my research and write-ups though. I'm much better behind the scenes, safely hidden away in a closet.

I'm finally walking without a cane! I tried exercising this morning for the first time, with mixed results. I can feel real pain in my lower back now, and worse, the foot-buzzing is back. This hasn't happened for a while, but it's happening now: when I sit for too long, my feet buzz and get irritated and eventually fall asleep. It's really uncomfortable.

Today Katrina came down from her room showing off her new TinkerToy contraption: "Look Mom, I made a cane!" Uggh! I hate that my children will remember this awful weakness of mine.

And Ski Week is coming up!! I am SUCH an idiot, and I was SO upset on Friday: I finally called Sugarbowl to make ski school reservations, thinking it wouldn't be a problem with two weeks' lead time. Nope! Full!!! Waiting list!! I couldn't believe it -- I've been planning on going to Sugarbowl and taking kids to ski school there for months, and I waited WAY too long to make the reservations that our whole trip hinged around. ARGH!

Partly, I putzed because I wasn't sure if or when Laura and Ryan could join us, but they told me in plenty of time (that they couldn't make it, sniff), and I still didn't make the reservation. I'm so focused at work it's really hard to take that 15 minutes out to make the call.

But....joy! I got a call today from Sugarbowl's Mountain Learning Center: they managed to fit us in!! The timing isn't perfect; it's spread across 4 days instead of 3, but still, whew. As I told my ski friend, "dumbasses can't be choosers." Now I CAN'T WAIT, despite the challenging logistics of not having everyone in ski school together. Looks like Gabriel and I will be skiing a lot together (yay).

But my back had better cooperate....limp limp.

2/11/12

Thursday, February 09, 2012

2/9/2012 the lunch mistake

Last night, when I made lunches, everyone got the same sandwich: cream cheese and jelly. Sometimes, especially when my back is hurt, everyone has to "suffer" with the same lunch.

Katrina didn't take this affront so lightly, and spent the better part of the afternoon at the CDC writing me a letter:

Dear Mom, I don't like cream | cheese and normal | yellow cheese Please, please start Wowbutter again, don't end Wowbutter again. Love, Katrina

with lots of surrounding blah blah blah blah blahs....

OK, so, tomorrow I guess it's "Wowbutter" (a soy substitute) for lunch!!

2/9/2012

Monday, February 06, 2012

2/6/2012 Bedtime!

I spent most of the day curled up on my bed, napping on and off. I'm very grateful that we have so many new channels now, from a recent change to our cable service. My back doctor couldn't see me today, but as usual, the physical therapists came through and I got an appointment there today.

This "annular tear" episode in my back is tricky -- I can actually stand up better than I usually can the first day, but there's a lot more pain than usual. Physical therapy usually makes me sore at first, but this time was much worse, it was really hard to walk to the car after treatment. But then, after lying down for a while, I can almost walk around "normally," though when I catch a glimpse of myself, I'm utterly pathetic.

As has happened before, it's interesting that of all the kids, Gabriel seems the most concerned. I have to wonder again if he's truly concerned about me, or if it's the very understandable kid-thing of not wanting to see your mother in a weak state. I remember when my mother had pneumonia when we were kids, and thinking she might have to go to the hospital -- it was terrifying. You'd think of all my kids, Gabriel would be the most blase, but it's quite opposite. I make light of it for his sake, but in truth I'm very frustrated that I'm so prone to being disabled in an instant.

Tomorrow: doctor, more rest, more ice, more drugs (prednisone advanced the healing fast last time), though I'll attempt to go into work in the morning. As much as I'm enjoying the Military channel, I'm getting tired of all this lying around!

2/6/2012

2/5/2012 Back goes blooey again

I should be writing about what a great time everyone had at Gabriel and Julian's birthday parties today -- and we did. It was one party package, but essentially two parties since each boy invited their own set of friends, and we were at the trampoline place where each group could do their own thing. It worked great; it was unusually un-crowded when we arrived, and immediately every kid was jumping and having a great time. I thought the biggest crisis would be when one of Gabriel's classmates' pants ripped completely open, which I dealt with by buying shorts at the trampoline place.

Just as we were about to do cupcakes, I was sitting at the table with Betsy and remarked to her that I felt something in my lower back, on the right side where the injury happens -- but it wasn't so bad because usually when my back snaps, it's instant and that hadn't happened. I shouldn't have said anything, because a few minutes later, lightning struck -- that's really what it felt like. A complete seize-up, and boom, it's cane city again.

Fortunately Betsy was there to help, she called Dave right away, and was able to help serve cupcakes, gather kids, and carry stuff to the car (thanks Betsy!!). Dave arrived with Katrina, and drove Gabriel and his new BFF, Raschelle, to her house to continue the playdate, while I drove Julian home. I took a hot bath, whatever drugs I could conjure up from last time, and spent the rest of the day in bed, with a break to have some dinner and hobble around to make kids' lunchs. Dave did the rest.

This stinks! What is wrong that my back has to do this?! This episode is among the most painful I've had, and by far the most shocking moment when it actually seized. And then, after zooming around this place perfectly healthy, and doing a lot of jumping myself, I had to hold someone's hand for help and then use a cane. How pathetic and embarrassing is that! This episode is up there with the really bad ones.

Well, on the bright side, at least I was done jumping and I'd had a great time with the kids, playing games and having them show me what they can do. And I got in a nice run Saturday morning, noticing that there was not a peep from my ankles. My back has been well-behaved for a while, but I think the seat-drop things I was doing with Julian's friend Jake were too much.

Tomorrow I'll be trying to get an appointment with my back doctor, and with physical therapists, the usual. I just don't want anyone to tell me I can't do stuff like that, it's just too fun and I have to figure out how to do a back flip first.

And the tired boys afterward was definitely worth it!

2/5/2012

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

1/31/2012 The Cereal Box Report

I've been joyfully uninvolved in the 4th-grade reports and projects so far -- to me, this is the way it should be!

That doesn't mean I don't expect good work from them. Gabriel's teacher agreed to Gabriel doing an extra report on the WWII B-24 Liberator bombers, and presenting it to his class -- a project I made up so that he doesn't think riding on one of these historic planes is just a joy ride. So I'm not completely lame.

And, thanks to Gabriel's 4th grade teacher, I kind of can be lame. The kids get to do some pretty fun projects, and without us!! The "Cereal Box Project" is always popular, and would make the anti-worksheet granola crowd happy too :)

Gabriel's teacher explains in a newsletter:

We also recently introduced a big book report project, the Cereal Box book report. Students are to design a cereal box based on a book they read as well as make a commercial in class to sell their cereal. This project has many steps, but we will be working on it in class a lot so as to make it as independent of a project as possible. The cereal box book report is always a favorite project for students and teachers alike!

Phooey to school, my head is still in Bear Valley!

1/31/2012

p.s. I finally finished and ordered my calendar -- should be arriving in your mailboxes soon!

Monday, January 30, 2012

1/30/2002 TEN!!

He's TEN today!!
All decade birthdays are exciting, but the first is really a big deal. The little-kid stuff (minus some obnoxious behavior and one teddy bear) is past, but the teenage stuff hasn't hit yet. I've been told many times that age 10 is the sweet spot, and so far, so true! Now is when the time flies, because the zits, long hair, sagging pants and bad attitudes aren't far off! These moments are much more to savor than when he was a baby.

I did a short year-by-year Facebook album too:
Gabriel growing up, year by year

1/30/2002

Sunday, January 29, 2012

1/29/2012 Back from Bear Valley

I'm WAY too tired and have WAY too much unpacking to do -- and it is a school night and we didn't get back until past 8:30pm tonight.

But first, let me say -- grab your earplugs -- that we had **SOO**MUCH**FUN***!!. Logistics were manageable, location stunningly beautiful, people very nice, no major disasters. The mountain is still snow-challenged, but had more than enough for us. I loved Bear Valley.

We left on Saturday at 11:30am, since our lodge check-in time wasn't until 4pm. Going for Saturday night instead of Friday night was a traffic gamble: we know traffic is horrible leaving on Friday nights, but returning Sunday nights is more variable, and we weren't returning from Tahoe. This paid off perfectly -- we had no traffic in either direction, and the ski place was far less crowded on Sunday also.

Lunch was in Murphy's, a historic tourist town I've been to many many times, at a restaurant with a hillbilly theme and what appeared to be a genuine prison transport carriage.

The restaurant was decorated with all sorts of "hillbilly" cliches and amusing signs (Hillbillies Signs).

After lunch, into the mountains. When we got to about 5000 feet, there it was -- snow! We stopped at a vista point close to Bear Valley Village (where our lodge was, about 3 miles from the ski resort) to gawk at the gorgeous view, and play a little. So so pretty, and the kids were thrilled to be in snow again.

Naturally the boys wasted no time throwing snow at each other.

Katrina was nonstop delighted by just being in it, and constantly sing-songed "Snow! Snow! Snow! Snow!" She'd worn her snow boots all day for just this moment. (In fact I forgot to bring regular shoes for her).

I admired the views -- all ones I've seen before, but they look different every time and I never tired of them. In my motorcycling days, I'd never see it like this. Not because of snow on the road directly, but because this highway closes and you can't cross the Sierras on Hwy 4 until about June (and there's still plenty of snow on the side of the road then).

For once, cooperation!

We arrived at the lodge and settled in, and I was relieved to see there were plenty of places for the kids to play outside. The lodge was rustic and relaxed, and had a large cathedral-like central area for people to gather and relax -- and for the scores of ski-racer kids to zoom around playing hide-and-seek.

Meantime, my kids found a snowhill and played on it until the dark forced them inside.

Dinner was pizza on the beds in the hotel room watching a movie. I really liked not having to sit in another restaurant, and we just hung out and watched Forrest Gump.

Mad scramble in the morning to get to ski school in time! But this wasn't bad, we have a system now, the lodge served breakfast downstairs (very convenient) and Bear Valley ski school starts late (9:45). The only wrinkle was Katrina suddenly crying out in pain and saying that she was going to throw up -- and usually when she says that, she follows up -- but it passed, thank goodness.

I was delighted how easy it was to find and park at Bear Valley. It's ONE building. (Cripes, nothing like Heavenly with 9 entrances.) And oh, how very very pretty was everything around us.


Even the parking-lot views were spectacular. Maybe because we were just so snow-starved or something, or because it was a gorgeous clear sparkly day.

Getting everyone's rentals and equipment on and bathroom done before lessons is never fun, but I was quite happy to say goodbye to the kids for their lessons -- and mine!

Julian and Katrina had all-day lessons; Gabriel and I each had half-day lessons. I'd meet up with him for lunch, then we'd ski together in the afternoon. This is SO fun, I love spending this time with him! And he seems to greatly value it too.

Katrina, it turns out, once again didn't get off the "magic carpet." I hate that! It didn't really bother her, but she did say, "Mommy, I never got to go on the chair lift!" Her instructor said she can turn and stop and is definitely ready for the next level. Unfortunately, when you're 5, odds are you'll be a class with 4- and 5-year-olds who aren't ready for the lift, so you don't go either. This is exactly what sends us back to Sugarbowl. Getting Katrina skiing on her own will really change the way we do things, and at her age and level, a full-day ski school should make a huge difference -- and at $125 a pop, it better!

Still, I was impressed that Bear Valley does try to keep kids grouped by ability, and I understand that some mismatching is inevitable, especially at the younger ages. They did a great job with the boys -- and me. In fact, Gabriel and I each got a private lesson because no one else of our ability and age showed up for a lesson. That was great!. Gabriel's teacher said with sincerity what a joy he was to teach, really focused, really listened to her, very brave -- he made a lot of improvements during their lesson.

My teacher said much the same things about me, ironically. I wanted to learn 360s, and managed a few very ugly ones, and then tried again in the other direction unsuccessfully until it was time to go back up a lift. He commented, "Well, that tells me something about your tenacity." I don't know about that, but I do notice instructors are cautious with middle-aged women. I'm always up to try something new or hard with an instructor -- what better time to learn? (Later when I'm staring down a sheer-faced precipice and wondering if anyone knows what my favorite flower is for the funeral, I question that bravado -- or is it, braggado!) (For the record, lilacs.)

I learned about "hop" turns on this roughed-up hill ("Tiggers").

During my lesson, we came across Julian's lesson once, and he seemed like he was having a great time, if still his slightly tentative self.

Julian's teacher told me later that he loves his "hockey stops" though he can only do them on one side (errr...you're supposed to know both sides??). He's getting closer to real parallel turning, though when it got steeper, he'd revert back to the beginner "pizza" wedge," but he's really coming along. He's taking the slower technique path, which Gabriel never troubled himself with.

My last run, my instructor took me down a short black-diamond that is intimidatingly steep to skiiers at my level....er, me. Not being able to actually see the slope you'll be skiing on until you're committed to it is a little frightening.

But my instructor showed me how to sort of slip-slide down and across, and then how to pick turns. Lower down the slope, it turned into the best snow I've ever been on and I sailed down the run practically screaming "WHEEEE!!!! I was thrilled and ready for more, it was great.

But it was time to pick up Gabriel, and after talking to his teacher, she was confident he could do that run. She was really impressed with his focus and his bravery, and they did a lot of work on technique. He really listened to her and worked hard, and she said sincerely that teaching kids like him really makes this job worthwhile. And she's no college student looking for cheap lift tickets; she'd been teaching there for 25 years.

Nice open lunchroom, and I like the view of the whole "bowl" from the (one) lodge.

After lunch, I took Gabriel to the same great run I'd done just before picking him up ("National"). I love the view from the lifts.

A little navigation error put us at the bottom of a slope with a nonrunning lift, so we had a little bit of walking back up to do.

(That's Gabriel in the far right, walking back up to go around the trees.)

Then we figured out how to get to "National" -- but the ~2 hours since I'd done it had completely changed the complexion of the snow. Now, instead of the soft, forgiving, red-carpet treatment I'd gotten, it was crunchy, crusty, curmudgeonly and unforgiving. I'm certain it was also about 20 degrees steeper now -- honest!

Right away, Gabriel thought it was too hard for him, but we were already committed. He actually didn't act scared, he just said he couldn't do it. Now I had doubts that I could too -- and now I had Gabriel to worry about. He went down soft on purpose to keep from getting out of control.

But I remembered what my instructor had showed me about side-slipping first, and I showed Gabriel that. And that worked -- he made it down by side-slipping down and across, then lying on his back and flipping his skies to the other direction and going across to the other side.


(Really, this was a LOT steeper than the video shows).

It was slow going, but steady progress and I never felt we were in any real danger.


He did make a few actual ski turns and did fine on those, but mostly he slid his way down -- safely. I was really proud of him -- it was beyond his level (and mine), but he didn't cry or complain or give up, he'd take breaks and tackle it again. And he actually never fell! He said later he was a little freaked out by it, but he said it calmly and factually, and added that he doesn't need to try it again.

We spent the rest of the afternoon on moderate blues, and had a great time with that. I just loved the views, it seemed like every run was on a ridge and you could see far into valleys in every direction.

After picking up the other two and returning the rental gear and all that, we drove straight from the resort to Angel's Camp for dinner, then straight home. That would have gone better except the boys were being so annoying and rambunctious in the car -- throwing things, shoving each other, screeching, knocking into Katrina -- and no end of warnings would calm them. I asked them again and again to settle down, told myself I didn't really need to listen to the radio, warned them very seriously that the only way out of this was with them crying, and that would make all of us unhappy -- couldn't we fast-forward past the unhappy part and just get to the calm part? I gave them my iPhone to send texts, and that only made Katrina unhappy, so I had to give her a turn and then they were right back at it. I even uncapped a bottle of water and dumped some behind me onto Julian, and that only sent them into peals of laughter: "YOU MISSED!"

Finally after 115 miles and about 2 hours of nonstop chaos, and the 10th time my seat got shoved forward, I made good on my threat. I pulled off the highway, got out of the car, and vigorously smacked both of them. And whaddya know. Peace. I'm sure I'm supposed to regret my violence, but my only regret was that I hadn't done it a lot sooner.

Other than that typical behavioral blemish, it was such a delightful, if short trip. I was so happy the kids got to play in the snow when we arrived Saturday afternoon, then our cozy indulgent dinner-and-a-movie. It's time that brings us all together and makes me feel so close, like this is what it's all about. Having my children around me, facing the challenges of travelling together, seeing them delight in the simple pleasures in one of my favorite places in the world...these are the highlights of my life!

And the Highway 4/Murphys/Bear Valley area is filled with so much to do -- I got some great ideas for summer camping, and other recreation like ziplining. We were regulars to that area for many years with our annual trip to Sheepranch, and I think we will be again. I don't even think I'll miss Lake Tahoe that much...?!

1/29/2012